Are you looking for more freedom in your life?
That could be anything. A new career. Work less hard. More room for creativity and freedom in your work. More energy. Better in your own skin. More success. Have a positive impact on the world around you. A solo trip. Less stuff. Living smaller. Escaping from your fixed patterns that hold you back from growing. Better relationships. Releasing toxic energy. Being creative. Tell your own truth, even though you know there will be resistance. Show your authentic self where you want. Etc. etc.
In the broadest sense of the word, freedom is: being who you are, doing what you most want to do, despite all the dragons in the outside world and especially in the inner world that stand in the way.
Perfectionism. Fear of failure. Doubts. Procrastination. Think of worst case scenarios. The fear of being rejected. To speak out. To be visible. Overachieving. Overthinking. Underachievement. The tendency to save others. To please others. Difficulty saying no. Fear of lack. Fear of loneliness. Control freak. Lack of self confidence. Lack of self-worth. Avoidance behavior. Fear of authority. Fear of your own authority and success. Limiting beliefs. Inner critics. Addictions. Dragons that are the result of being bullied. And so on.
If you want more freedom, you have to do something with your dragons. That is the first and also the most difficult step. The next step follows automatically, because knowledge can be found everywhere: in your network (in this community!), on the internet, in books or in training courses.
Often we want to do things or learn new things without looking at these dragons. That's why we stop, push through on willpower, or freeze. That costs a lot of time, money and energy, perhaps even our health. Moreover, we still don't do what we really want.
Instead of condemning our dragons for all the ways they sabotage us, let's build a relationship with them. Have good conversations. Throw a party for them. Only when we put our dragons in the spotlight will a transformation begin.
For the first time in history (!) we can experience freedom as free, rich, powerful, creative women full of self-confidence. We make our dreams come true. We have a positive influence on the world around us.
The women in the community help you and your dragons to realize your dreams and share them with the world. All the knowledge and experience you need is available in the community. We encourage you and help you with practical support. In turn, you support others.
The journey to freedom is an individual journey that we can best undertake together. On your own, your dragons are too smart, and they keep us from changing. When we work together it is easier to recognize the dragons, and to disarm them with our creativity and humor.
You can choose to work on a concrete project (business, career, art, book, personal development plan, lifestyle, travel etc.) during these steps. You can also choose to let go of your goals to see what the journey brings you. Because there is always more freedom to be found, often in places where you least expect it (your blind spot is also a dragon!).
The unique thing about this community is that we see the inside and outside of freedom in mutual connection. Normally this is separated. You go to training courses or (business) coaches for the outside of freedom (more financial freedom, for example) and spiritual teachers for inner freedom. Here you get both, and they are connected.
The community consists of online and live meetings. I facilitate the meetings and create a structure. To that end, I share my 'road map to freedom.' This road map is a reflection tool that you can fill with your own experiences, insights, and actions. It offers a common language that allows us to communicate better with each other and help each other take the next steps.
There are five circles:
I have been looking for the answers to the question of what freedom is and how to get more of it for years. I didn't read books about freedom. Instead, I started experiencing it.
I find freedom by always doing what causes me the most fear, because I know: "behind my greatest dragon is my greatest treasure." I write about these experiences in my diary (and book). The moment I can give meaning to the experiences and share them with others, I am one step further on the road to freedom.
Because of this practice, I feel more whole and more free than I've ever felt. It doesn't mean that I have found absolute freedom. Freedom is an ongoing journey. I am glad, because that makes life interesting. There is always a new dragon that shows me the way to even more freedom and even more (self) love.
The first thing we do when we see these dragons is condemn them. We don't want to see, hear, or feel them. They are bad. They have to go, because they are in our way. When they do surface, we ignore them or push them away from us. We don't know at that moment that this will make them even more effective.
'Working on your mindset' is another pitfall. This is the idea that by controlling your thoughts you can make the dragons smaller and more positive. Unfortunately, this is not effective, because most of your behavior is controlled by unconscious patterns, over which you have no direct influence. Indeed: these are the dragons.
We think that people are equal and have the same dragons. However, freedom works differently for women and men. We have a very different history, and therefore also have very different dragons. Just as people of different ethnicity, sexual orientation, or culture also have different dragons, and therefore a completely different quest for freedom.
This community is only for women, because we recognize each other's dragons and can therefore work together more effectively. We need a safe place, separate from the dominant culture, where we can find and share our own truth. Here we can grow, and conquer the world together with our new strength.
Who is this community for? This community is for people who identify as women or are gender neutral. You are also a woman who wants to make a positive contribution to the group; maybe even the world. In addition, it is good if you try to take as much responsibility as possible for your own dragons, and not project them onto others (or politicians, or the media).
Who is this community not for? For your own well-being, it is better not to participate if you have recently experienced a traumatic event, if you are looking for a solution for old traumas, or if you suffer from anxiety disorders. This is not therapy. We will definitely get started with dragons, but only if these dragons are set in the present. Of course you can participate in the community as a supplement to therapy. If you are hesitant about this, please contact me first.
What do we do in the community?
There are two activities per week:
1. An online live session in which we discuss the topics and challenges that are central to this month in an interactive and creative way and take steps.
2. An online live session in which we come together, create together, and encourage each other to take action, whether that is in your own project, a joint project, or a drawing because you feel like it today.
There is also a session every month with a hot seat and intervision. In the hot seat I coach a participant where the other participants can watch. You will see that everyone learns from this. An intervision will then take place.
The sessions will take place alternately during the day and in the evening so that everyone can participate live as much as possible. The sessions will also be recorded (where possible). You will have access to the recordings as long as you are a member of the community.
Where do we do that? The community is mostly online, so you can participate from your own computer, wherever it is. You log in to a platform that is specially designed to facilitate communities: Mighty Networks. We have our own closed place there. Here we are free to share things, without advertising, without companies peeking in. There is room in the community for online learning and exchange. It is a safe place where we can be ourselves and grow together.
When do we do that? You can join the community three times a year: in October, February and June. If you register now, you will receive free lessons and meetings between your registration and the start of the community. You will then be a member for 12 months and have access to all lessons, inspiration, and opportunities to exchange with other participants.
How much time do you need? Compare it with training to learn a musical instrument, or yoga. You will get better results if you set aside an hour for lessons two or three times a week. In addition, it is good to consciously work on freedom every day. This can be done by participating in the challenges offered in the community. Or by taking a small step every day towards freedom, in whatever form. You will get even more results if you share with other people in the community. This is where the material really comes to life and you achieve real transformations.
What makes the community so special? That's because we bring together topics that are normally offered separately. It's about learning and exchanging. Alone and together. Own goals and collective goals. Creativity and purposefulness. Rational strategy and intuition. Fear (dragons) and trust. Left and right brain hemisphere. Introspection and action. It's about balancing our masculine sides (expression, goals, strategy, thinking) and our feminine sides (feeling, creativity, intuition) with our dragons. The magic starts when we make these parts work together.
Why is it important to get in now? That's because the dragons are big and urgent and we save more time, money and energy the sooner we start talking to them. Moreover: the community is in its infancy. That is precisely a reason to get in now. If you participate from the start, you have a lot of influence on what the community will look like. So there is no autopilot whatsoever. That too is freedom. Also important: the price is lower at the beginning than if you join later.
What is the investment? I'll tell you that in a conversation. There are different prices for different entry points. If you would like to know the price, if you would like to register, or if you would like more information first, please contact me via the pink buttons. I invite you for a conversation by phone or Zoom. This conversation is free coaching. Plus, I'll answer any questions you have about the community. You are not committed to anything yet, so do not hesitate to contact us! I look forward to speaking to you.
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I am a certified coach and trainer with more than thirty years of didactic experience, both live and online. I have been self-employed since I was 25. I have a lot of experience in building and maintaining communities, such as in my own restaurant that I had until 2004, in classrooms (history teacher at the university), in online groups, and in Tarifa with the organization of Tertulia meetings. I like to connect people and get the conversation going, because it makes life more interesting, and because there is already too much polarization.
In 2015 I was a successful business coach with a 6-figure business, but I was unhappy. Ever since I stepped into the unknown and went on a solo trip in my campervan, I have been on a journey to freedom.
Now I'm an artist with a book, a performance, and a ukulele. I like dancing, theater, and animals. I live in nature and I am a minimalist with few things. I think about things a lot and love to share my lessons with others. I have already appeared in more than 15 newspapers and magazines in the Netherlands. I like to take courageous steps, and if I am afraid of something, I do it, because I know that it matters, that my heart is in it.
I am a seeker. I want to know what freedom is and how it works, and I won't stop searching until I can explain it in five sentences. I am an idealist because I often do not agree with the world I live in and I have the desire to contribute to a better world.
Every day I write in my diary. With this I freed myself from old dragons, and thus I discovered who I am and what my vision is on life. For seven years I have been working on my road map to freedom. I want to share this with you. Together we make the route even more beautiful.
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